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Falling In Love Doesn’t Have To Be Devastating!

While on a social networking site that I also post articles on, I came across another members recent post describing her overwhelming feelings of pain and angst over a lost love. Her powerful writings described feelings of falling hard, unrequited love, yearnings for comfort, tossing blindly and her willingness to walk into the fire to be reunited with her lover.

As a little girl I remember all too well the feelings of being dumped by Bobby, my kindergarten boyfriend for little blond Karen, his newest conquest. Although I grew up, fell madly in love myself and lived the all American dream for a few years, the bubble burst and I ended up a single parent of three. As I often tell my patients in my private practice here in Boca Raton, Florida (http://www.bocatherapy.com/) love is not for the timid. In order to love one must be willing to risk. With risk comes thousands of possibilities of outcome. There are no guarantees in life or love. So if you are bold enough to take that giant leap of faith, there are still ground rules for searching for Mr. or Mrs. right!

We all want that love that makes us feel like we’re home. Somebody to hold, share in our dreams and disappointments. On the ‘”jouney of love” most often, the prince charmings and sleeping beauty princesses end up to be diamonds in the rough for most of us. So often I hear the phrase, “I don’t want to settle.” My advise to you is Don’t Ever Settle! True love is not about “settling” in order to say that you’re in love or not be alone on a Saturday night.

“I told him many times how I feel, he thought it was nice, but was honest from the start telling me he did not feel the same way. So I made a fool of myself . Can someone tell me how do you get over someone you love, but dosn’t love you? It hurts terribly and my heart is broken. ” Yes, unfortunately you have made a fool of yourself. Until someone earns your respect and love, it is a mistake to give it away as though you’re throwing money in a cup to the local homeless guy in the subway. Its nice to have a generous heart, but not when it comes to your love life, hold on to the essense of who you are! Respect and love should be earned over time, not given away for free!

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