a healthy relationship

Revive Your Love: What Can you Do?

Ask your partner if he or she remembers when you both met. Were there a lot of sparks and fun flirting with the first meeting? Now you both don’t know why you both don’t connect the way you used to like when you first met.

When you and your partner fell in love for the first time, it became an exciting and happy time. Now that you have been together awhile, things have gotten boring and just a dull routine when you are together. Do you both still remember what drew you together and do you recall the passion you both shared?

* Show how attracted you are to him or her, relax and flirt, joke and laugh together. Show complete attention when you are together, yet be unavailable at times because you are busy but you will definitely set another date to see each other again.

* Your partner or ex doesn’t need to be notified how your spend every minute of the day. You will let them know that you want to see them again, but you have your job, activities, social life with your friends, and chores you must get done. It’s important that you let your ex know that you need to see them again and set up a date.

* Try to look your most attractive. If you want, get a flattering new hairstyle, makeup (if you’re a woman). Work out or get some kind of exercise—as this will reflect in your energy level. You will come across as more energetic and sexy to your ex or significant other.

* When you do meet your ex or partner, learn to pay attention to him or her. Be genuinely involved in what’s going on in his or her life. Bring up old times where you had great shared memories together.

Relationships take awhile to get back to the way they were when they first started. Be independent with your life with other activities and friends, yet make sure you spend time with the one you love. Your time together will be much more special.

Don’t expect an instant reconciliation—if it’s meant to happen then it will in time. The best thing you can do is not to rush or force things or your ex will begin to think you are desperate. Be cool about it, but be loving.

Even if you are living apart, realize that you can fall in love again if you choose to work at it together. Relationships are often strong yet fragile. Love takes time to grow and be nurtured.