a healthy relationship

Is It Meant To Be? Finding Your Perfect Mate

Being in a relationship is a growing, changing experience. We sometimes find ourselves faced with the question: can this be the one? We learn more about one another through our interaction. It is not uncommon to ask the question “is this the person I am meant to be with?”

We strive to find the right match. We long for that lasting relationship that makes us feel wanted and needed, and helps us feeling fulfilled. But we also know the flipside, about the heartbreak of being in a relationship that is not rewarding and complete. That feeling we have, is it fear of intimacy, or intuitively knowing it’s not right?

We want to make sure that we are with someone who is good for us, and beat those almost undeniable statistics. It is not all that uncommon to question whether or not we are with the right person. What is your gut level feeling?

How do we know how much of our relationship, or at least our perceptions, are in our head? Having a true, lasting relationship requires a level of agreement, and a shared reality.

Is there balance between the dream world where we create based on our wants and needs, and the real day to day reality? In a real relationship we are interacting with another person, with their own thoughts and dreams. For their own sake they must be true to their own perceptions, not live up to yours.

In any relationship there is a balance between the shared reality and our perception of the relationship. When we connect and truly love another it is because we have allowed ourselves to fit in that space. There is an open-ness within our heart, and our lives, to share with another.

The bond that is between two people can be amazingly strong and incredibly weak at the same time. It is built on both the reality shared, and the perception we have of that reality. Delving into our inner world can help us in determining if the feelings you have in your relationship are based on fact, or fantasy.