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How Does Divorce Happen?

For most couples, their wedding day is the most exciting of each one’s life. Divorce is not on their minds at this moment because they feel that they will love each other for the rest of their lives.

However, a look at the statistics shows otherwise. The Forest Institute of Professional Psychology reports that one of every two first marriages fail and two of three second marriages fail; proving that your chances of true happiness the second time around is not guaranteed. Somewhere between “I do” and the divorce papers, something went wrong. What could it be?

If the divorce comes quickly, it probably means that a couple stepped into marriage too quickly. A married couple share more than money, their entire lives are joined together by marriage. For those who are familiar with being independent, this takes some getting used to.

At times there is another male or female involved. The marriage may have grown stale, or a spouse may have gotten too close to a co-worker or friend. Some couples may not be able to overcome infidelity within their marriage.

It can be difficult to understand why couples who have been married for a long time decide to divorce. If they have survived a long period of time together they may think that no problems could come up now. Some couples separate after decades together because they have grown apart; often the result of career changes, kids moving out of the home, and other changes in situation. A lot of times you will hear someone say, I don’t know her/him anymore.

Luckily, there is help for relationships that may be deteriorating. Many different types of marital counseling are available from churches, support groups, and counselors who specialize in helping married couples. It is typically not a quick fix, but counseling can help lay a solid foundation for a relationship.

Marriage doesn’t last forever anymore. If both partners are willing to commit to working on a solution, the odds of the relationship surviving can be vastly improved. If you need help, please find a qualified, certified counselor in your area. It is well worth the effort and could possibly save your marriage.

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