Dr. James Lehman, author of the Total Transformation program, asserts that children are unaware of how to solve problems. This leads them to act inappropriately. They use this faulty skill to force someone other than them to fix the problem. Using the hints in Total Transformation, a parent can teach their kiddos what they need to know in order to figure out how to solve their problems. These tools will encourage responsibility taking and accountability.
Mothers typically think they are supposed to put the needs of their family before their own. Tending to other people first is a culturally accepted norm for women in our society. Anything short of this can be perceived as selfish, even sinful.